Dealing with heartbreaks and moving on

   Oh it's all about the teenage years! When you are in high school, something that will probably happen to you is the feeling of love. When we are still young, the feeling is just so awesome and so nice; however, since we are young and we don't have that much experience, we are also very sensitive, especially to things that cause a great deal of emotion. Typically, in high school, when you are in love with someone, chances are you guys will have a breakup much more easily compared to an adult. However, since we have not had this experience before, heartbreaks can be intense. Therefore, knowing how to control your emotions and knowing how to deal with heartbreaks can help you with keeping yourself stable as well as having an idea of how to move on from this traumatizing event.

   The feeling of grief and the feeling of sadness is very normal, I have to tell you. Imagine that you like someone so much, especially if they are your first love, and then things happen and then you guys are no longer together - the feeling of separation, the loss of connection between you two compared to just a while ago when you guys were so close, it's such a traumatizing experience, and I really understand that. Therefore, it is completely normal for you to feel down and depressed after a breakup - please validate your feelings, please know that your feelings are real, your feelings are okay, and you can let yourself grief. It's just so healing sometimes when you're able to appreciate your feelings before you actually plan what you are going to do in the future after this heartbreak. Something that I really recommend you to do is to keep a journal and journal down off your feelings if you want to. Why do I want you to do this? Well, this is actually because when you keep things in your mind and you don't release them out, your feelings will become bottled up and you will never be able to get away from this - because the feelings and all the things in your head are just going to be around you and they're not going away (because you still let it inside your head). Just dump all your feelings, dump all of your negative emotions into your journal, into a notebook. By doing so, you are releasing all of your raw emotions into the notebook, the journal without having to tell anyone (if you want it to be that way). This is also very good in the long run because when you're writing down your feelings, you're able to understand what is actually happening and you will be able to sort out your emotions about why are you feeling sad and why are you feeling down and why you're feeling depressed 

   Well, sharing your feelings with your close one, it's also a very good option if you feel like you need someone to talk to; but trust the person if you have the will to tell them, because people can be untrustful and they can talk to other people and in that case it will be so bad. Personally I would say that share what happened to your parents, your siblings or your best friend, because they are the one who have the closest emotional connection to you and can probably give you good advice on how to deal with this.

   Next up, please take care of yourself. Heartbreak isn't something joyful or something easy to get over. Hence, please take care of yourself, get enough sleep, do some yoga, do anything that can really make you feel better 

   Now, in the final step, figure out the next steps: what are you going to do from this point on; are you going to distance yourself from them; are you going to still talk to them as your friends? Please figure it out, and place a huge emphasis on your mental health and your mental well-being, because at the end of the day, what matters is that you are feeling okay and that you're not feeling uncomfortable. 

   And for some final notes, sometimes the feelings are just so intense that you are not going to be able to help yourself or ask other people for help. In this case, I would recommend that you reach out to a psychologist, because when you seek professional help, it can be better because they are trained and they have been able to go over the situations before (with other customers).