Fit in your high school

When you are in high school, you may find this very relevant: sometimes, it can be hard to fit into your high school. As depicted in a lot of movies about high schools, there will basically be different cliques where people will belong to, and it sounds like it can be really hard to fit in when you don’t feel like you belong anywhere - and sadly, in reality, cliques do exist, and it can be pretty traumatizing when you don’t think you are fitting in with any clique. The thing that I’m saying here doesn’t mean that you necessarily have to fit in any clique or anything (you are your own self, remember!), but as high schoolers and teenagers, we are likely to have the tendency to seek validation from others, and it can get pretty tough to achieve that in the high school playground. Because of this, today I’m going to share with you some ways you can fit it better into your high school!

The first tip comes from something pretty basic, really - clubs! You may not know it, but a club is a great place where you can interact with different people, as well as finding people who share the same interests with you! If you don’t find the idea of initiating a club that comfortable, you can start by joining one! There is certainly going to be a lot of collaborative work needed in each club, either Math Club or Environmental Club, hence that is going to be an excellent activity for you to make friends with new people. Additionally, you can start to make friends with new people by creating your own club! The reason why I encourage you guys to start a club is because there are going to be a lot of benefits from doing so, not limited to just being able to meet new people. First of all, this will train your leadership skills, which can become very beneficial for you in the future, whatever career path you are choosing. Second, typically, if you are a member in a club, you may not have the opportunity to interact with all members. But if you are the president, you definitely will have to work with all members, either directly or through, for example, the head of different departments in your club. And by doing this, you are able to create deeper connections with members in a club, which can certainly turn into deep friendships with people, even if they are younger or older than you!

Next is something that I think can be very helpful for you if you want to fit into some certain clique, and by that, I mean you should shine in one particular aspect and fit in with the people with the same interests. This can be demonstrated through many ways: first of all, as I have stated above, you can participate in a club and find members with shared interests there. Also, if you are one who likes sport, join the sports team and actively play in different games! By showing to others about things you are interested in and things you are good at, you can naturally feel fit into a certain group of people, which can even make yourself better off with that aspect!

A thing that I can’t stop emphasizing here is to be a kind person. Really, if you have friends but then it becomes known that you are truly a bad person who also talks behind their backs, then sooner or later, no one is going to talk to you. This doesn’t mean that you have to become submissive and willing to help others at any time, but please try to be nice in front of others, and don’t let yourself have a reputation of being one with bad deeds. This is literally the easiest thing you can do - in the first step, you don’t have to do anything yet, just be genuinely nice, as well as being helpful. But, it is inevitable that by interacting with different people, we can get into dramas even if we know it or not - remember, not everyone is going to like you, and for everything you do, even good deeds, there are some people who will find ways to hate you for that. The thing here is to be prepared for any of this, because personally, I believe that these things are very typical if you are talking to a lot of people in your schools.

Lastly, you can engage in things outside of school that involve others as well! You can find different examples that I have given above, of people involved in sports and games. But another way that you can approach this is to hang out with your friends - at school, the majority of the time is dedicated towards learning, right? Hence, by hanging out with your friends, you can really develop close relationships with other people, which can be very helpful in the aspect of creating good friendships.