I have a crush, now what?

This is something that I believe every teenager, and most teenagers I don't know, will probably go through when you go to high school or middle school or college, which is that you will have something called a crush. I believe that you have heard this word so many times before, so I'm not going to really define it because, of course, it means a lot of things. It can have a positive connotation; it can actually also have a negative connotation. But, after all, a crush is basically someone you love. A crush typically will come pretty easily, can come very fast, but it can also go away very fast. I have known people who have had a crush for a few days or even one day only, and then the next day, that person has moved on to have a crush on another person. Therefore, I believe that having a crush is such a normal thing, because at this age, we're really exploring ourselves, we are exploring our sexuality, our romantic interest. Therefore, just let yourself explore these different kinds of people, these kinds of love, and see who will fit you, who won't fit you.

However, many people from the start think of a relationship with someone after a crush. Only yet, some crushes would move on to something more romantic, more lovely. And I believe that at that point, you must know how to act appropriately so that your mental health can be preserved.

There are going to be two paths you can take. The first path is that you admit that your love, your crush with that person, exists, and that you are going to do something about it in order to achieve your romantic goal. The second path is that you are going to find a way to not get stuck in this relationship, in this crush, in this love, and you will learn how to move on.

So today, we will talk about both of these approaches, about what would you do when you pick either path. And hopefully, by the end of this post, in the case that you are currently having a crush, you can decide for yourself whether that person is fitting for you to seriously think of pursuing a relationship or whether, if you decide to give up, and to focus more on yourself, so that you can have an idea of how you can move on from this love, this infatuation.

For the first part, where you want this love to become a reality, once your crush falls in love with you, you have to do something about it. Because typically, when you have a crush, the other person may not know that you have a crush on them, and they may only think that that is a friendly relationship. However, if you want to make it serious, you have to take steps; you have to do something to make the other person know that you have a crush on them. I know that it can be a little bit creepy; however, realize that life is short, and you can't just do nothing about something that you care about dearly. So, for God's sake, just try to do something about it.

You can do some little steps, for example, you start to talk to them a little bit, you start to hang out with them a little bit, get to know each other more. Remember, a relationship, even a friendship, is built on the foundation of trust, it is built on the foundation of intimacy and getting to know each other in a deeper manner. Therefore, if you are attracted to a person, and you want that crush to become an actual love, ask them about more serious stuff, send them about more intimate and more personal stuff, so that you can understand that person more. On the other hand, you should also tell them a little bit about yourself, tell them a little bit about your life, but I hope and your personal details. Essentially, make yourself vulnerable, let the other person know that you feel comfortable, and that you feel loved when you are near them, and I assure you that they will start to feel the same way to you as the way you feel to them.

The hard part here, and the most exciting part also, is to find the right time to admit your love to that person. Wait for some time where you think that the relationship has become a bit better, and that you have built some trust with that person, and then just go ahead and admit it. You don't have to lie or to fake anything, because love is too short for that kind of stuff. If they admit the love, then yes, congratulations. However, if they don't, then it is completely fine. The hard thing here is only to talk to them, is to make friends with them again after he or she has rejected you. You will have to figure it out.

For the other path, which is, I believe, the easier one, you just gotta forget about that person. The trick here is to focus on the other things, because when you are focused on things that actually matter to you, things like love and crush, what really matters anymore. The thing here is that you have to take care of yourself, and understand that sometimes you have to take care of yourself in order for someone to like you back. Treat yourself, and there will be someone falling in love with you.