Make a move …

Again, one of those topics that I have always been longing to discuss! First of all, in introducing the topic that we are going to explore today, let’s look at some things that we always associate with high school: AP courses, stress, sports, extracurricular activities, etc. But apart from all of those, one prevails, and that is love/relationships. As kids move into high schools and turn to adolescents, they are likely to have a tendency to explore their sexual interests as well as to form relationships with other people, especially classmates or people who go to the same school as them. When younger kids do this thing, they may turn extremely awkward and think of it as inappropriate, but honestly, when it comes to the age of 13 upwards, attraction becomes something quite natural - you may not know how you suddenly become attracted to your one particular classmate. And let’s say that you are currently having a crush on someone, and luckily, there are mutual interests here - remember that you can’t force someone to like you, but if mutual interests exist, then lucky for you! But then, a challenge exists: both sides know that they like each other, but no one has the urge to make the first move. As of my personal observance of other people, I have concluded that there tends to be two different cases when it comes to this: one, when two people become very imitate as “close friends” but don’t know how to make the next step, especially when both sides are afraid that the other side’s enthusiasm in this relationship is only in the “friendship” point of view; and two, which is the more difficult situation: when two people become extremely shy in front of each other, but then they constantly make eye contact and interact from afar. Whereas I do agree than teenage love is very innocent and that these things are completely natural and normal, it can get pretty frustrating and even mentally-draining when you can’t just express your feelings out (mostly in case of rejection or of shyness, especially in the case of homosexual situationships) to the other “partner”. I actually have recently watched an Instagram reel where it said something like: “pov: you and the other person like each other but neither makes a move, so probably it will never happen” - and sadly, this is the case with so many people! Because of this, I have decided that it is important that you are able to sort these things out, so in the future you won’t have to regret the decisions that you have made earlier on.

The first tip that I would like to share with you guys right here is that body language and actions are very helpful tools in expressing what you want to say. Chances are that you don’t want to be straightforward right away, but your actions can work like a picture: a picture is worth a thousand words, and an action can achieve that too! Don’t be too awkward when it comes to this thing: try to touch their backs, stare at their eyes when you guys are interacting with one another, and show that you are interested in them. These things can be extremely bold moves, but that is the point: if you are not making certain moves and when you are showing interest in pursuing this relationship, then the only one who will suffer is going to be you! Realize that if you want to get something, you have to work on it - don’t expect the other side to make the move, take the proactive role!

The second and final thing (yes, only 2 tips are needed!), which is also the most important thing that you need to do, is to make bold moves - which is what I have mentioned above. The thing about why there are only 2 tips is this: making a move is honestly not something extremely complicated, but it is only your nervousness that is trying to make things harder than what it actually is. I am fully aware of the fact that things are easier said than done, but what are teenagers characterized by? Impulsivity, exactly! Your teenage years are certainly going to be the most memorable times of your life, so make them count, and don’t let your decisions make you regret later! Think of things in a simple manner: who cares about being rejected - the signs are already there already, right? And if you are actually delusional, then great, because at least you have tried to do something you haven’t had the nerve to do! Also, because you won’t have to care about this anymore, life is going to be a lot less stressful, right? And that’s the case when you are rejected - there is a high chance that there are mutual interests as well, remember! And if you are accepted, then congratulations, not only because you are able to create a relationship that you have been wanting to have, but also because you are not shy to express your feelings and are actually working towards something that you want to get! Be bold, boys and girls, you all can do it!